What a quandary, JK. I don't know what to say, other than it's best for you and your brother to join together in decision-making. If your father liked the ocean, maybe all the ashes should be tossed there together. Or upon a field of flowers, if he was partial to flowers. Or maybe on the farm where he married one of the wives. Maybe you should write a screenplay as this is such a unique and vivid family history.

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